Advance Care Planning
The Merry Widow/Widowers Group
A GROUP OF WIDOWS/WIDOWERS CHOOSING COMPANIONSHIP, FOR SHARING MEALS, ENGAGING IN STIMULATING CONVERSATION, AND COMING TOGETHER FOR THEATRE, OUTINGS, TRAVEL AND NEW FRIENDSHIPS. THIS GROUP MEETS ONCE A MONTH.
WHAT IS THE IMPORTANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS?
WHY DO WE NEED PEOPLE? AFTER ALL, WE ARE BORN ALONE AND WE DIE ALONE.
Loneliness may feel permanent and inevitable to someone who is unfamiliar with companionship or has recently lost a partner. Pain may sever trust in a way that makes it difficult to rely on future companions. These things happen in life, and the thought processes they create in the person who suffers them can be very difficult to see through. However, it is within relationships that healing occurs as well.
It is by contrasting one's own perspective with the perspective of others that we learn to see new possibilities. Without the challenges and assistance of others, creativity would be stifled. Nearly everything in life is made possible because of someone else, from the tools to the skills that make them useful.
The connections between people create options that are not available to someone who is alone. It is through a lifetime made up of billions of ideas, interactions, and relationships that we develop into who we are becoming. Death is merely turning the final page on that process, but even in death every life has an effect.
There is no such thing as a life without connections. Those connections will have an effect on everyone who encounters them, even if they don't notice the change.
However, we all have the choice of noticing the connections and being an active participant.... It's a skill that will improve within a lifetime of practice.
WHAT IS THIS GROUP? HOW DID IT FORM?
“The Merry Widow/Widowers” developed from a monthly open grief support group that meets at the Campbell River Hospice Society on the last Thursday of every month.
Individuals attending the support group after some time noticed a unique problem many of them were facing especially the widows and widowers that attended. Life without their partners has affected their lives in many ways.
One common component was the fact that they had lost their best friend to share life with, have good conversations, outings, dinners, attending the theatre and so forth. Nobody wanted to replace their spouse with another, they don’t want to date, they just want to be with common individuals that are experiencing the same thing.
Hence the birth of this fantastic group. Individuals gathering to laugh and enjoy life without the pressure of dating..
WHAT DO THEY DO?
- Pot Luck Dinners
- Movie Nights
- And so much more!
Benefits Of Joining
- The benefits of “the Merry Widow/Widowers” and other support groups for widows and widowers are many:
- Provides a place to meet others who have lost their spouse, others who understand your loss.
- Provides support from feeling isolated and alone
- Opportunity to meet new friends
- Great way to participate in organized activities without feeling like the 3rd wheel (often those who have lost a spouse feel like the 3rd wheel with their friends that have spouses)